When it comes to the well-being of their children, most parents are willing to do most anything to help them find happiness in life. Sacrifice is a key component in successful parenting and those who do not have the commitment and maturity to set aside their own selfish interests for the good of their children are not ready to take on the enormous responsibility of parenting. This is doubly-important in the challenging environment faced by parents today. What can righteous, god-fearing parents do in light of a society that appears to be teetering upon its foundations? (Ps. 11:3). Parents are teachers. In fact, parents are the most influential teachers in a child’s life. In addition to the things mentioned in the eight previous articles, parents must teach their children that value of a peaceful home-life.

Children are ill-equipped to handle the challenges of a hostile, tumultuous environment in the home. Unable to effectively process such anger, children frequently turn their attention inward and blame themselves for the unhappiness around them. Even adults find it difficult to think rationally in a turbulent environment. Solomon says, “Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting with strife” (Prov. 17:1). In the October 2, 2010 issue of Psychology Today, it is reported that when kids were asked how they could tell if a couple was married, many of them agreed that “If they are arguing, then they are probably married.” Although there is a vein of humor in their response, there is also a hint of tragedy. Far too many grow up in broken or unhappy homes with little resource to draw upon in their own future lives as parents.

In this, parents must teach by example. Because we are human beings, conflict is inevitable. But, because we are being refashioned into the image of Christ, composure in the face of disagreement and generosity in the application of forgiveness must be abundantly evident to those little eyes watching our example. For the most part, arguments do not need to be carried out in front of our children. But, when they do, forgiveness and restoration needs to be as obvious as the conflict itself. The home is a place for second chances. It is a place where apologies are heard and responded to with loving forgiveness. It is a place where even the parents are willing to show genuine repentance when they have wronged their children by deed or example. Remember the wise advice of the king: “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Prov. 15:1). Keep in mind that, in times of pressure, adult children tend to revert back to the example they saw and experienced in their family of origin. Let the peace of Christ rule in your homes and in the hearts of the children with whom you have been blessed.